How do I choose a divorce mediator?
Most mediators offer a brief free consultation. You should feel free to take advantage of this opportunity to meet with a few mediators to make certain that you feel comfortable with and confident in the skills of the mediator. In this consultation, make the mediator aware of any issues that you feel may require some special expertise on the part of the mediator. Mediators in Massachusetts are qualified to offer confidentiality if they have completed the thirty hour statutory training and are members of an organization with a code of conduct. Be certain that the mediator that you ultimately decide to work with has these credentials.
The mediator does not need to be a lawyer. Non-attorney mediators learn about the applicable laws and practices of the probate court and are able to share this information with their clients. No mediator, lawyer or not, may give legal advice in the course of mediation. In this regard, there is little difference between the attorney and non-attorney mediator.
Parties need to feel comfortable with the mediator. It may be the background of the mediator that makes the difference for you. Non-attorney mediators tend to have a background in mental health, social work, or education. Typically they tend to focus on empowering clients and have expertise in parenting and family issues. Attorney mediators tend to focus on legal issues and present solutions to their clients. Obviously, there are mediators who combine great people skills with legal knowledge. This is the person that you would like to work with on this very important process.